Usually, when driving around town, I would usually hold Rachel hands. Most of the time I would say, "Where's your hand?" and she would immediately take her hands to my lips for a kiss and vice versa. It's like a remote. This morning was particularly funny. Instead of me holding her hands, she held mine. Pecking here and there. And then all of a sudden, she bite me. Not hard enough for me to scream, but I was little suprised. And then I asked her "What was that for?"......then she answered "I Love You mah"......then we laughed.
How bout you? Would you bite your spouses as a gesture of love? :)
People often say, action speaks louder than words. Talk-talk, no do-do. But I say, actions and words are equally important. Most Asians do not normally express our love verbally to our loved ones. Maybe its because of our upbringing. We are ego-istic people. Once you utter the word "love"...... very paiseh. Not macho, for the men.
I am very fortunate that my family is very close to each other. We would greet each other in the mornings and kiss my mum before going to work. We would say "I love you" as often as we can. Rachel, on the other hand was brought up in a typical Chinese family. She has yet to hear a word of I love you from her family. Malu wor....When Rachel was introduced to my family, I made her do her worst nightmare....saying I LOVE YOU to my family members. To add to the salt, I had her kiss my mum. At first, she felt awkward. Then as time flies, she felt that kissing and saying the 3 words I Love You in a family is easy. And now, it's spontaneous.
During my wedding dinner, I had a session when both Rachel and I gave both our mothers a bouquet of flowers, just to say thank you for raising us up to where we are today. Rachel gave to my mum and of course I gave to my mother in law. And as usual, we kissed our mums. I felt that my mother in law froze and shivered...hahaha.
Anyways, it is always good to express our love both verbally and by our actions. We may not see the goodness and benefit now. But treat it like an investment. The dividends would surely come. It changes people, it changed Rachel and it surely changed mine.